10.31.2013

My Ring

Some of you might remember my wedding ring was stolen last year. It happened the same night as a particularly devastating event that occurred just fifteen minutes from where I grew up. Because of the severity of the latter event, I felt selfish to be talking about and mourning my stolen ring. To be honest I've never felt like I was really able to mourn and let go.

I flew to Denver late on a Thursday night last summer to photograph a wedding. My mom picked me up from the airport and when we got home I immediately went to my bag to get ready for bed. I was looking for my face wash and other things when I realized my toiletry bag was open. It was one of those wrapped toiletry bags and my first thought was, "I don't remember the turbulence being so bad that it should have opened my bag up..." I knew something wasn't right and after looking closer I realized the pocket that held my ring box was unzipped and empty. The first question I always get is, "Why weren't you wearing your ring?" I will probably be asking myself that for years. I had had a diamond fall out of it in the past and I was paranoid of that happening through security and everything. I assumed it was safer in my bag. It should have been safer in my bag. My mom and I spent the next several hours driving back to the airport and reporting a stolen item. It was only the beginning of dealing with a specific airline that refused to admit or believe any of their employees would open a bag without permission.

The next day was spent calling number after number: a million different numbers for the actual airline, a million different numbers for TSA. I was holding onto any hope I could that I might see my ring again. On my last call with probably the only employee left in the company to talk to, I broke. I had listened to person after person tell me that their employees aren't allowed to open bags and that there is no way they would do that. I finally said, "You know what? People do bad things. There are lots of people in the world that don't care about the rules and they break them. I refuse to believe that there is not a soul in the company that wouldn't open my bag and steal my ring." The man continued to babble on about things that I didn't care about and didn't make me feel better. 

In the back of my mind, I knew it was over the second I had noticed my ring was missing. I knew from the beginning I wouldn't see it again. I think I kept making call after call because I just wanted someone to show sympathy. I just wanted someone to say, "I am so sorry this happened to you. I can't imagined how violated and upset you must feel. I'm so sorry that something so treasured and special is gone forever."

I know it has been over a year since this happened and mostly I'm content with it. But sometimes when I look at my hand and I don't see the ring that Jordan designed for me himself, I realize my heart is still broken. I will always wish I had done something different. I will always wonder why I never felt an urgency to wear my ring or to hide it better or to carry on my bag. Maybe there is a reason for all of it. Maybe I will never have the answers. 

To the person that stole it, I only wish I could make you understand how bad that hurt.

20 comments:

  1. I feel sympathetic towards you, if no one else did. Seriously, though. That is completely and totally upsetting! I feel like they should have, at least one person, said sorry...

    I can totally understand how you would feel. He designed it himself? That is SO special. I can feel how your heart could still hurt from that.

    xo,
    rn
    www.rachelnicoleblog.com

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  2. This was horrible to read and I can't even imagine how horrible you must have felt (and still do). x

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  3. My husband's wedding band that we customized was stolen in different circumstances. I still feel sad when I see our wedding pictures and know that I'll never see that ring again.

    xoxo

    The Occasional Indulgence

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  4. wow, what a stunning ring! beautiful
    xx

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  5. that is the saddest :( i think my heart would've sunk.

    but i always love seeing peeks into your home. where are the string lights from?

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    1. Target! :) They were half off too. Such a steal.

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    2. awesome! thank you, i've been looking for a cheaper option from the $36 ones i found.

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  6. truly sorry! that is a nightmare.
    Your husband is very lucky to have such a good wife who loved her ring that much!

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  7. That is just so terrible. I'm shocked that authorized personnel didn't take further action. I am so sorry

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  8. first of all let me start off with something on a lighter note, you are absolutely gorgeous and you have great taste.
    second, ugh. i am so paranoid about my wedding ring. the diamond was actually from my mother-in-law's engagement ring, so i feel even more paranoid. ryan custom made the ring which makes it even more significant on top of how significant an engagement ring already is. i couldn't even imagine how i would feel. you have every right to feel this way, i am so so sorry.

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  9. I am so sorry Bri. That really is sad. I hope one day you will find it? Or he can get you another one. That is devastating.

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  10. this breaks my heart, bri. i remembered this story when i recently lost something important to me, and i was just overcome for you. seriously, just a few days ago -- and i couldn't bring myself to be that upset, just remembering that this happened to you. i can't even imagine how violated & hurt you must have felt -- and still feel sometimes. i hope that writing it out helped at least a tiny bit. jordan will give you a beautiful replacement someday -- and then that ring will represent so much more. love you.

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  11. I am so sorry! I can only imagine how violated and upsetting that whole ordeal has been. I just got engaged and I'm so scared of something like that happening- I feel like I'll either knock it and break it or someone will grab it from my finger (stupid, i know)- but I can't imagine someone taking it from me. Just remember that what goes around comes around and I'm sure that person will somehow get what they deserve!

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  12. Oh honey I feel your pain, and I am so very sorry that someone would be so horrible to take your wedding ring.

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  13. Wow that is so so sad, I'm sorry you had to go through that. But don't blame yourself, the person who stole it is all to blame

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  14. That's terrible :( When something bad happens, even if someone can't give you an answer, just having them feel empathy and try to understand makes a world of difference. I can't even imagine how special that ring was for you, seeing as Jordan designed it for you, and I'm so sorry the airline was so crappy about it :(

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  15. Darling, I am SO so sorry to hear that this happened to you-- no one on earth deserves to have their wedding ring stolen, especially not someone as marvelous as you. I hope that you magically are able to find it someday!

    Xo, Hannah

    sweetsweetnoir.net

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  16. That's awful. The thing is, though, I don't think you can make someone who could do that understand how much it hurt. I don't think someone who could do that can really have the capacity to understand someone else's emotions.

    My phone was stolen right in front of me last year, full of special photos that weren't saved anywhere else, and even that made me feel sick and violated for a long time, so I can't imagine how this must have felt. But it all comes down to you being a good person, and that can't be stolen by anyone! x

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