10.24.2013

Dear E! News,


I spent part of my evening watching your program because, although it is embarrassing, I will admit that celebrity gossip is a thing I enjoy. A third of the way through the episode I hear, "Up Next: See who is rockin' this post-baby body." I cringed a little but decided to continue. When the show returned, I was fed a good 5 minute segment with stories and pictures of recent celeb mothers and their bods after babes: their diets, their workout routines, how much weight has officially been lost, but oh don't worry, she still has a way to go.

I am just going to skip the "why?" and go with, "Can we stop this?" We are talking about woman that grew a human inside of them. Women that carried that human for up to 40 weeks to then push out of their body. Some even had it cut out of them. Not to mention that that new baby has most likely turned their world upside down. Most of them are getting little to no sleep, then add pains and discomforts from labor recovery, then add erratic, unpredictable hormones with maybe some postpartum in the mix and there you have it, a typical life after baby. How dare we look over all of that to praise something as trivial as a thinning waist line?

The fact that we put such an emphasis on weight and body image in this country makes me sick and rather angry. You are a major network that provides the gossip and the guilty pleasures and I get it: that is just what you're providing. But you have the power and influence over the content you put out. You have the ability to change this obsession and instead focus on healthy, real life goals and struggles and achievements. I fear the impact this fascination with a woman's size is having on every day women like me and my friends. What does it say when we place the worth of a woman on her body instead of her mind? You're praising woman like Kim Kardashian and Jenna Dewan for the intense diets and workout routines they have put themselves through after pregnancy. Feminism has come a long way in the last one hundred years but I start to really question how far after things like the "Royal Baby Reveal" when all anyone could talk about was Kate's body.

I do not currently have children but I know when I do it will be one of the happiest times of my life. And it won't be because I look great or even feel great. It will be because I was blessed with a child to love, to care for, to teach, and to watch grow. It will be one of the most challenging experiences of my life but one of the most important. It will stretch me thin and make me a better woman. All of the mother's I admire and revere have gained that respect because they have been more than a body. They have influenced the world with their love and compassion, their kindness and devotion, their heart and mind. These are the women I praise. These are the woman I hope to learn from and I hope my little sisters learn from. 

Woman are more than their bodies and I will speak that truth for as long as I live. I wish that you would be that voice as well.

Sincerely, 
Bri

30 comments:

  1. You could not have put this better, Bri! So, so true! It is such a sickening thing. And it never ends! No wonder we have so many problems with insecurity in this world, and things like this only feed it!

    xo,
    rn
    www.rachelnicoleblog.com

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  2. Thank you for posting this! I recently had my third son and it's definitely annoying that our culture puts so much pressure on women to instantly lose their baby weight. I love having this very special time with my baby and I wish that a part of my mind weren't thinking "but when will I fit back into my jeans."

    www.animpulsetosoar.blogspot.com

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  3. I am new to your blog and I enjoy it very much. I have to say "Amen" to this particular post. It's so true. I've been a little on the heavier side for most of my years but I always felt healthy and not ashamed. However, in the last few years, I find myself criticizing my body more and more and I think it has a lot to do with what I see on the magazines and the "news"... and why am I going through this in my mid-30's?!
    Anyhoot, thanks for the post! Sorry my response was so long.

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  4. I love this. Our society has lost sight of the importance of the most special events in our life. And I can't help but wonder where these celebrities' babies are while they are going through these intense workout/ diet routines..

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  5. Great post! So true in every aspect, and you make a difference in the world just by writing this! thanks =)

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  6. This topic has been on my mind a lot recently. For some great thoughts and insight (all research-backed), check out http://www.beautyredefined.net/. It's this nonprofit run by twin sisters who tour the country spreading the message that we need to learn to redefine beauty if we ever want to be truly appreciated for everything we are. I heard them speak at a church thing a couple months ago, and they blew me away.

    Definitely worth checking out!

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  7. This was absolutely great, Bri. :) Thank-you so much for posting this.

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  8. You go girl. Some of my recent thoughts exactly. I have a one-year old and although I have tried to get myself back in shape, I know that my body has changed and I will never be the same again. But when I look at my precious child, I can't imagine who would care. I really appreciate your post!

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  9. They put what they know is going to sell out, YOU have the power of stop watching those horrible programs like i did. They're not going to change, but you can.

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    1. I agree. But sometimes it's not enough to stop watching and we have to start raising our voices about it.

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  10. This is what every woman needs to hear! I actually just came home from shopping, in search of cute clothes that will fit (trying to avoid buying maternity clothes). While I was in the changing room a big part of me felt giddy with excitement to see how far this 22 week old bump and I have come along, but a little part of me kept saying to the reflection in the (revealing) full-length mirror, "gross, man you look gross!". It was so nice to come home and read this post. Thank you for the reminder, beautiful lady.
    Steph

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  11. you say it so well, sister. couldn't have said it better!
    xx

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  12. Thank you for this. I really recommend you read http://www.cjanekendrick.com/2012/04/life-story-early-history-of-my-body-ii.html It's really beautiful, and helped me change my mindset when I was struggling.

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  13. Thank you for writing this! You have no idea how much this is talked about after you have a child- it's not just a celebrity thing. I was kind of shocked at how many times my appearance was commented on or talked about after I had my son a few months ago. I was so in love with him, I could care less about my body! Wouldn't it be nice if after having a child they would ask the woman how she feels as a new mother? How it has changed her and made her better? I, too, want to convey that this is not okay. If you're interested I would love to feature this post on my blog, deerlindsay.com ... let me know!

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    1. Yes yes. Agree totally. And I would be flattered if you featured it. :)

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  14. It's so true! I can only imagine the pressure celebrity mommies must feel after they have a baby because they know the media is going to give them a hard time about their weight. It really is a sad, sad reality. Wonderful post!

    x leah symonne x

    itsleli.blogspot.com

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  15. I hate the pressure that are put on women to look this way or that way. Why can't we be perfect just the way we are and just leave it at that? Why are their so many standards for how women need to look?! It kills me how ridiculous it is.

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  16. thank you for this. i'm trying my hardest but still struggling to accept my post-baby body. and its almost been a year.

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  17. Beautifully and rightfully said, Bri. You go girl!

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  18. oh my goodness I love these thoughts. such truth!

    it needs to be spoken, for women and for men and for children just learning how to pick up on social queues and judge people and change themselves accordingly.

    thank you.

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  19. Yes yes yes!!! I was just reading an article about this the other day. Here's the link: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/joy-gabriel/kate-middleton-and-the-mom-in-the-mirror_b_3672553.html

    It's crazy how society is so constantly focused on appearance. Who cares if we get skinny right after having a baby? I'd much rather embrace the moments with my newborn, because you can never get those back.

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  20. someone already linked to lexie and lindsey but this a post they did about this exact topic. seriously check out their work if you haven't already.

    http://www.beautyredefined.net/you-had-a-baby-this-is-how-you-get-your-body-back/

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  21. preach, girl! such true words, its a shame more people don't understand this!

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  22. "women are more than their bodies" - TRUTH

    trinketsandtalmud.wordpress.com

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