3.26.2013

Things That Happened

Jordan's birthday was over the weekend and I decided to make him a little garland counting all the way to his age. I had friends and family send me some of their favorite memories of Jordan and I put one on the back of each number. I had so much fun reading everyone's memories. Some of them were things I didn't even know about. It made me fall in love with him all over again.

I don't talk about it a lot, but having this guy gone Monday through Friday every week is really awful. I mean, things like this, you learn how to deal with it and you try and appreciate the time you do have. But dropping him off every Sunday is only getting harder and harder. I have been thinking about this a lot amongst a million other things and I have been comforted by a few things. I have been through some crappy situations in the last five years, but ya know what? All of those things eventually came to an end. Someday, probably even later this year, I will look back at this and think, "Look, it's over. That is just something that happened now." Just like the memories glued to the back of each number, they happened and that was that. Most of the time, like when I am driving away on Sunday night, I am looking at my life through a pinhole: I can only see what is going on right now. But sometimes I let myself look at my life as a whole and I can see that things are going to be okay.

24 comments:

  1. Happy Birthday to your husband! What an adorable idea of the stories on the garland! =)

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  2. I love the garland idea. I wonder if my husband would even appreciate it, though. He doesn't like when his birthday is acknowledged.
    My husband is out of town this week, and I'm pretty bummed about him being away. I can't imagine if he had to be gone like this every week. :/ But you're right, everything will be okay. :)

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  3. That is such a sweet idea! i love it!!

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  4. You really have been through some rough things. That feels weird to say, considering the fact I've never met you. But that just goes to show that even perfect strangers know you're strong.

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  5. thanks so much for your comment yesterday. i know you & i have a lot of the same things on our minds right now -- the waiting bits. but honestly, bri, i can't even imagine if i had to go 5 days a week without robbie. you are made of real strong stuff. just remember that you are a child of God. remember that any bad or unpleasant thing has a necessary time limit, because you are his, eternally. sometimes, when i'm in a tough spot, i can just say the word "eternal" to myself and so much of it melts away.

    also, let me just say this garland is the sweetest thing i've seen in awhile.

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  6. your husband is a lucky guy with a wife like you.

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  7. I really love the garland idea and I may steal it for my my husband's 27th? But maybe attach the notes to balloons! Hang in there! You're super cool

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  8. The memory garland is such a cute idea!
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  9. happy birthday to your hubby! love birthdays :)

    and i feel the same way--E and i are doing long-distance and it gets old. but it has gone by fast and we only have a few months left. you're right, someday we'll look back and realize it was all okay. the goal is worth the wait and frustrations.

    grace & love,
    kristyn

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  10. Okay love love love this idea! How darling and clever. I think I might have to do this for my hubby's birthday coming up!

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  11. What a heart-warming idea for birthday memories!

    You're a good wife. :-) It takes a strong one to be able to support the goals of their husband. It'll all be for the best!

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  12. What a thoughtful idea! Also, thank you for sharing your thoughts. I love everything about your blog and every once in a while you say something that really hits home. What you said in this post was somewhat of a consolation for me!

    Once again, I adore your blog and I look forward to your new posts every week!

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  13. What a wonderful idea! I'll definitely be keeping this in the back of my mind for future use =) thanks for sharing!

    xo- Sam

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  14. love your message here because i've found myself in the same boat lately. i'm in architecture school and it's definitely a love/hate relationship (i mean, they don't call it "architorture" for nothin'...). i find myself feeling very burnt out and unconfident, and i just want to fast forward through the next three years and get on with my life. but to make myself feel better, i always think of the big picture: this is just one little phase in the scheme of my life. bigger and better things are ahead! so i completely understand what you're saying in this blog post. you are not alone!!

    also: super sweet idea for jordan. i love how meaningful and unique the banner was!

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  15. What a sweet idea. Happy Birthday to your husband!

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  16. I can't even imagine how hard that must be Bri.
    You definitely are a strong lady that's for sure. It sounds like you have a good outlook on it though, knowing it will pass with time and that it all happens for a reason:)
    Sending lots of love to you through the week! <3

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  17. My boyfriend's 25th birthday is in a couple of months, soooo thanks for the awesome idea! My boyfriend and I were long distance for a long time (I'm talking 14 hours away for almost a year) and as much as it sucked at the time, it's so nice that it's over. Like you said, now it's just a thing that happened. And guess what? We overcame it and now we live in the same city and appreciate each other more than ever. Things may suck right now, but they won't always.

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  18. This is one of the sweetest birthday ideas I've seen in a long time.

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  19. Happy birthday to your husband. I love the garland you made!

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  20. This is the sweetest thing.
    I love doing thinks like this for birthdays. My husband blew up over 60 balloons for my birthday and hung them from the ceiling of our place. I felt so special.

    xo
    madison
    tellingoceans

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  21. What a great idea! Something I should def consider for my hubs or other family members. So creative and unique:)

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  22. you are so right in the life as a whole thing. the best is yet to come:-) And oh man do I understand those Sunday heart drop offs. Absence makes the heart grow soooooo achingly fond. xoxo

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  23. what an awesome, thoughtful gift! :) new follower, by the way!... and, I like the perspective that you're taking on your situation. I need to look at things like that when things get rough. chapters, is all! everything's just part of a different chapter.

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