11.17.2011

Love Languages

This conversation above is actually very typical.
Do you know about Love Languages? Most of you probably do, so I won't give a whole overview on them. But just in case you do not know, here's the scoop... There are five love languages. They are Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. You can find out your love language by taking the assessment here. My love language is Quality Time. Home boy's is Receiving Gifts. (Lucky for him, I'm a pretty awesome gift giver) I have been interested in this whole theory for a few years now. I read the book awhile ago and have really enjoyed learning how to show love to family through their language. This last week I decided to give Jordan lots of gifts and surprises and watch the effects. Guys, this stuff is so legit. Jordan was significantly happier and lovey dovey. (Don't tell him I told you) As the week went on I got more and more excited to have gifts for him. I love making him happy. If your significant other feels love through gifts, I have a few suggestions for you.

1. Write stuff down. Keep a journal or something where you can write down potential gifts for them. I found that making a board specifically for this on Pinterest is genius. You know there are always those times when you're talking about something you wished you had...Well, instead of relying on your brain to remember what your spouse said they wanted, write it down!

2. Focus on their interests. When trying to think of gifts, pay attention to the things they enjoy. For example, we have been really loving Marvel superheroes lately. So I got Jordan a Spiderman shirt. It is awesome and he loves it. He also likes blue colored sodas. Easy. Think about their favorite music, books, tv shows, electronics, food, clothing. You can branch out in a million different directions from there.

3. Try not to always resort to food. Maybe you don't like food as much us so this isn't a problem for you. But we like it, especially the junk food. Because of this, it's important to use the "food gift" sparingly. If your significant other is trying to eat healthier or exercise more, it is discouraging if you give them a plate of brownies. Although it may be delicious, we want to support them.

4. Remember it's the thought that counts. I've learned that my husband enjoys the surprise and that I was thinking of him over the actual gift. Don't stress over what the gift is or feel like you have to spend a lot of money. It means more that you took the time to get something for them. "The perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized."-Gary Chapman


If you haven't read the book, I would recommend it. It has some really amazing stories about couples that have applied this to their lives. It will give you a lot of insight into the ones you love and also yourself.

4 comments:

  1. Aw. That's sweet. Mine is quality time, too. But words of affirmation and acts of service were just one point away from quality time. I'm just so needy. I think acts of service is creeping up to the top though since we had a baby. Getting help from him even though he's busy feels SO GOOD.

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  2. I'm quality time too. No wonder we all get along! Me, you,carly. Thanks for the link. I've heard of the book a hundred times, guess I will have to read it!

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  3. I've never heard of the book but I think I have to read it asap. How fascinating! My guy definitely isn't a gift guy, so i'm wondering what he'll be. And if I had to guess, i'm in the quality time category. Can't wait to see if i'm right.

    Great post! I just found your blog, can't wait to read more!

    -Bailey
    http://lostandfound-bailee.blogspot.com/

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  4. the name of your blog is awesome :)

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